My Internet is down so I’m posting something short by phone. Details to follow on what made me recall this important principle from the late Dr Howard Hendricks:

We must discriminate between things that cannot change and things that must change.

In general, the church does a terrible job of that. The apostle Paul speaks to this throughout the book of Galatians.

For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision nor uncircumcision counts for anything, but only faith working through love. (Galatians 5.6)