This is the first blog I’ve actually composed since the surgery. I hope the “time delay” entries were useful for you.

Yesterday, I spoke at the graveside service for my friend, Col Don “Crusher” Craigie, at the Air Force Academy. With surgery just 8 days before, it was a monumental effort for me to be there, but God got me through it! In addition to Taps, always moving, the highlight of such a service is the “Missing Man Formation” flyover. A four-ship approaches, in this case, the team was from his last assignment when he was Wing Commander at Vance AFB, near Enid, Oklahoma. At the last second one of the planes pulls up and leaves the formation, symbolizing the departed. I tear up as I write.

A few minutes before, I closed my remarks with verses from 2 Corinthians 5. Crusher had suffered much over the past year, and especially the last four weeks. This encouragement from Paul seemed appropriate:

…We know that when these bodies of ours are taken down like tents and folded away, they will be replaced by resurrection bodies in heaven—God-made, not handmade—and we’ll never have to relocate our “tents” again. Sometimes we can hardly wait to move—and so we cry out in frustration. Compared to what’s coming, living conditions around here seem like a stopover in an unfurnished shack, and we’re tired of it! We’ve been given a glimpse of the real thing, our true home, our resurrection bodies!…When the time comes, we’ll be plenty ready to exchange exile for homecoming. (2 Corinthians 5. 1 – 8, MSG)

Crusher, welcome home.

I thought it would be fun to send a couple of pictures from the memorial service of my friend Colonel Don “Crusher” Craigie, Sunday, July 26, at which I spoke.

In addition to some personal vignettes, I included my observations on God and warriors that I shared here on July 24.

After I finished speaking, I received this picture from my son David in Atlanta:

David was watching the service through the miracle of livestream. When I got up to speak, our youngest grandson, Caleb, who turns two in October, recognized my voice from all of our FaceTime conversations. He climbed into the chair to see “GrandBob.”

What an age to live in. Our daughter, Melody, also watched the service from China!

On display in the lobby was this plaque presented to Don back in January:

Don was a 28-year veteran of the Air Force. Full colonel, fighter pilot, Wing commander, AND he was a servant. Often behind-the-scenes, the church recognized him for “Quiet work, abundant influence!”

And Jesus called them to him and said to them, “You know that those who are considered rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great ones exercise authority over them. But it shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Mark 10.42 – 45, ESV)

For what we proclaim is not ourselves, but Jesus Christ as Lord, with ourselves as your servants for Jesus’ sake. (2 Corinthians 4.5, ESV)

I wrote yesterday about our Bible study on Colossians 3.18 – 4.1: let our relationship with Jesus be the model and impetus for our relationships with others. My friend Joel pointed out that we are being called to a higher standard.

For example, I said it was important for subordinates to submit because, when I was a commander, I told the folks, “I really want to be nice, but I don’t have a range of skills between ‘please’ and ‘the hammer.'” Joel’s response: “We’re called to a higher standard. If you didn’t have the skills you needed, you should have developed them!” A good word.

I heard recently of a Christian (so I’m told) husband who admits to “anger issues.” Well, guess what? We don’t get to have anger issues.

• Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. (Colossians 3.19, ESV)
• Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. (Colossians 3.21, ESV)

Sometimes we let ourselves off too easy. I’ve written before that the early church changed the world by living out the gospel. The behavior the Apostle Paul was calling for was counter-cultural. The men and I discussed that if we can’t do what we’re called to do, then we not only “trust God” and “rely on the Holy Spirit,” we train.

Train yourself for godliness. (1 Timothy 4.7, ESV)

“The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak” (Matthew 26.41) is a temporary condition. I’m weak post-surgery, but that’s temporary. That’s why I’m training and going to physical therapy. I’m “rebuilding the house,” physically and spiritually. I hope you’ll join me!

Now go up into the hills, bring down timber, and rebuild my house. Then I will take pleasure in it and be honored, says the LORD. (Haggai 1.8, NLT)

[Surgery update inserted early August 3. Sorry I didn’t get one in before. I tried once but must have missed a step. Surgery went well. I was awake and alert through it all (lots of sawing and hammering!). Doc said the old knee was a mess. We came home Thursday as normally happens with my doc. I’m getting around OK with walker or cane.. I took my last narcotic early Friday. Just Tylenol now. I’m gradually (but slowly) getting stronger. Not much stamina.] 

The past few months I’ve had a lot of fun going through Colossians with a few men, at least one of whom has not done formal bible study before. I keep it simple: Observe (what does the text say?), Organize (what are the main ideas?), Obey (how can I put something into practice?).

We recently looked at Colossians 3.18 – 4.1, the relationship section: wives/husbands, children/parents, bondservants/masters. The main thing I noticed beyond the fact that instructions were given to both sides of each relationship was that we are called to behave the way we do because of our relationship to Christ:

• Wives submit…as is fitting in the Lord.
• Children obey…for this pleases the Lord.
• Bondservants obey…fearing the Lord…work heartily as for the Lord…you are serving the Lord Christ.
• Masters, treat your bondservants justly and fairly, knowing that you also have a Master in heaven.

The parallel passage in Ephesians has strong instructions to husbands and fathers based on the example of Christ and our relationship to him.

• Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. (Ephesians 5.25, ESV)
• Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. (Ephesians 6.4, ESV)

Jesus was clear about this! We love others because Jesus loves us. We treat others as Jesus treats us. It’s a higher standard, and I’ll say more about that tomorrow.

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. (John 13.34, ESV)

Jesus, knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands, and that he had come from God and was going back to God, rose from supper. He laid aside his outer garments, and taking a towel, tied it around his waist. Then he poured water into a basin and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the towel that was wrapped around him. (John 13.3 – 5, ESV)

I met recently by phone with John Degner, national coordinator of Every Man a Warrior, and one of his questions was, “Why do the men in some groups experience life-changing transformation while men in other groups do not?”

One of my friends lists several possible reasons:

• Men don’t mind a little change around the margins, but deep-down they don’t want transformation. That’s what Matthew Kelly wrote, and I reported, about a year ago.
• Most of us are held back by one or more of fear, pride, and laziness. (That will preach!)
• They may not even know what transformation looks like.

Those are good reasons. In addition, I think it goes to the groups’ leadership. After all, as I say whenever I’m touting particular discipleship materials:

Materials don’t make disciples; people make disciples!

If I walk into a men’s group of any kind, I can usually tell within a few minutes, if not a few seconds, whether the group has an eye for transformation or it’s merely information exchange (or information argument). And that’s a function of the leader. Even the best materials, if used in a group led by an information guy rather than a transformation guy, will rarely result in any transformation. It’s an old problem: the Apostle Paul wrote about it in the early days of the church:

Remind everyone about these things, and command them in God’s presence to stop fighting over words. Such arguments are useless, and they can ruin those who hear them. Work hard so you can present yourself to God and receive his approval. Be a good worker, one who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly explains the word of truth. Avoid worthless, foolish talk that only leads to more godless behavior. (2 Timothy 2.14 – 16, NLT)

But don’t just listen to God’s word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves. (James 1.22, NLT)

Our culture is increasingly characterized by a profound lack of civility, especially in our online exchanges. On NextDoor recently, for example, someone asked for help in how to get rid of the snakes under their deck, and they were met with a tirade of vitriol on how helpful snakes are and why did they choose to live in the woods anyway? 

I won’t even start on how people talk to each other about masks. 

The Bible has the guidelines for good communication, and maybe if we Jesus-followers set the example, good things would happen. I offer just two verses without further comment:

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. (Colossians 3.12, NIV)

But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. (James 3.17, ESV)

How about a change of pace? This doe with two fawns was in our backyard last week:

The voice of the LORD makes the deer give birth and strips the forests bare, and in his temple all cry, “Glory!” (Psalm 29.9, ESV)

Then the eyes of the blind shall be opened, and the ears of the deaf unstopped; then shall the lame man leap like a deer, and the tongue of the mute sing for joy. For waters break forth in the wilderness, and streams in the desert. (Isaiah 35.5, 6)

GOD, the Lord, is my strength; he makes my feet like the deer’s; he makes me tread on my high places. (Habakkuk 3.19, ESV)

Blog reader and long-time friend Henry Brown, now living in Hilton Head, South Carolina, closed a note to me with this benediction. It’s worth passing on to you:

Best wishes for you tonight my friend. My prayer – Listen patiently, contemplate prayerfully, speak clearly and love dearly. – Henry Brown

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak… (James 1.19, NIV)

This is the message you heard from the beginning: We should love one another. (1 John 3.11, NIV)

I wrote two blogs near the beginning of the COVID lockdowns about the importance of not obsessing over news, beginning with this on March 21, Turn off the TV! I followed the next day with something from Seth Godin: Curate Your Incoming.

Maybe it’s time for a reminder, and Seth Godin has written another winner: Doom Scrolling. Here it is in its entirety:

Being informed is a virtue. It helps us make better decisions and encourages us to take action.

Getting hooked on an endless scroll of media inputs is not the same as being informed. There’s long been a business model of urgent news (“man bites dog!”), but now it’s been leveraged, amplified and optimized to suck people in for hours at a time. And division is much easier to sell than progress.

If it’s not helping you take action to make things better, what’s it for? –Seth Godin, July 20, 2020.

I still can’t do better than the verses from my two earlier posts:

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. (John 14.27, NIV)

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. (Philippians 4.8, NIV)

Our pastor has been challenging us to consider “what we signed up for” when we became Jesus followers. Recently he made a very practical application from the often misunderstood verse about “hate” in Luke 14. Consider it in The Passion Translation with its footnote:

When you follow me as my disciple, you must put aside your father, your mother, your wife, your sisters, your brothers—yes, you will even seem as though you hate your own life. This is the price you’ll pay to be considered one of my followers.

Or “hate.” This is an Aramaic and Hebraic metaphor for putting Jesus above every other relationship. The Aramaic word sna has several meanings and can mean “hate” or “put aside.” In this case, Jesus, the King of love is not saying to hate but to put aside every other relationship into second place… (Luke 14.26, Passion Translation with footnote)

What was our pastor’s explanation/application? Politics. He cited Dr. Tim Keller, who in turn referred to author Larry Hutardo. I can’t improve on this section of the article How to Reach the West Again, March 12, 2020:

In Destroyer of the gods, Larry Hurtado seeks to explain why an increasing number of people converted to Christianity in the Roman world, even though it was the most persecuted of all religions and carried significant social cost. Hurtado speaks of the unique Christian social project—a unique kind of human community that defied categories then and will still do so today. It has at least five elements that could be broken down and expounded at greater length, but which also need to be seen together, as they constitute a whole. The early church’s social project was:

• Multi-racial and multi-ethnic
• Highly committed to caring for the poor and marginalized
• Non-retaliatory, marked by a commitment to forgiveness
• Strongly and practically against abortion and infanticide
• Revolutionary regarding the ethics of sex

The early Christian community was both offensive and also attractive. Believers did not construct their social project in some strategic way to reach Roman culture. Each of the five elements was there because Christians sought to submit to biblical authority. They are all commanded. They are just as category-defying—both offensive and attractive—today. The first two views (ethnic diversity and caring for the poor) sound “liberal,” and the last two (abortion and sexual ethics) sound “conservative.” But the third element, of course, sounds like no particular party. Churches today are under enormous pressure to jettison the first two or the last two but to not keep them all. Yet to give up any of them would make Christianity the handmaid of a particular political program and undermine a missionary encounter. (Tim Keller, emphasis mine and our pastor’s)

As the article says, all sides seem to have a problem with non-retaliation, while each of us seems to favor the “liberal” or “conservative” approach as defined above. Jesus might ask us, “To whom are you loyal? Your political leaning or me?”

Then he said to the crowd, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross daily, and follow me. If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for my sake, you will save it. (Luke 9.23, 24, NLT)

So be happy when you are insulted for being a Christian, for then the glorious Spirit of God rests upon you. (1 Peter 4.14, NLT)