{"id":8390,"date":"2024-11-16T17:30:00","date_gmt":"2024-11-17T00:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/drbobewell.com\/?p=8390"},"modified":"2024-11-12T14:49:12","modified_gmt":"2024-11-12T21:49:12","slug":"angers-effect","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/drbobewell.com\/?p=8390","title":{"rendered":"Anger’s Effect"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

I’ve written about outrage<\/a> before. It is, as my son Mark says, America’s favorite indoor sport. Sahil Bloom wrote about anger recently<\/a>, and it’s too good not to pass on. After all, we remember a story <\/em>better than we remember ideas:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I was a kid, my grandfather told me the story of the Buddha and the Angry Man:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

One day, the Buddha was walking through a village when a young man approached and began yelling at him.<\/em><\/code><\/pre>\n\n\n\n
\u200b\"You are a fake! How can you claim to have wisdom to teach others? You know nothing!\"<\/em><\/code><\/pre>\n\n\n\n
\u200bThe Buddha paused and smiled at the young man, which further angered him.<\/em><\/code><\/pre>\n\n\n\n
\u200b\"What do you have to say to me? I attack you and you just smile?\"<\/em><\/code><\/pre>\n\n\n\n
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\u200bThe Buddha replied: \"If you buy a gift for someone and that person doesn't accept it, to whom does the gift belong?\"<\/code><\/pre>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
\u200bThe young man, agitated, replied that the gift would still belong to him, because he was the one who had bought it.<\/em><\/code><\/pre>\n\n\n\n
\u200bThe Buddha nodded: \"The same applies to your anger. If you come to me with anger, but I choose not to accept it, the anger still belongs to you. You are the only one who is moved by it.\"<\/em><\/code><\/pre>\n\n\n\n
This story offers two powerful lessons that we all need to hear:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
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  1. Vocalizing anger and outrage often creates more damage internally than it creates impact externally. Think about whether there is a more effective pathway to voice your perspectives if impact is the goal.<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. If someone comes to you with anger, always remember that you can choose not to accept it.<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
    Both lessons are worth contemplating as you navigate life in the days, weeks, and months ahead…<\/em> – Sahil Bloom, November 9, 2024<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n
    Good counsel:<\/p>\n\n\n\n